My three year old friend recently threw one of his toys at me. In an attempt to teach him empathy, I said “That made me feel hurt and sad. How did it make you feel?” In a creepy little voice that recalled Damien’s voice in The Omen, he said “Happy.”
Hmm.
“How would it make you feel if I threw this back at you?,” I asked.
“Sad. And angry. It would make me angry.”
Aah, he does get it!
But how, friends, do we get that understanding to translate into action. If you feel sad and angry when someone does something to you, don’t do that same thing to someone else. It is elementary really. Right? Maybe it is too advanced for a three year old. But surely our friends in congress must understand this?
I am not sure they all do. In the past week, I have been thinking long and hard about the recent renewal of the Violence Against Women Act. It was, thankfully, renewed, despite the lack of support for it coming from the Republican sector. Part of the issue, it seems, is that the proposed act has expanded coverage for LGBT and immigrant women. The act used to be supported unanimously despite party affiliation. Because of the increased coverage for LGBT and immigrants, the 31 male Republicans in Senate voted against the bill. Thankfully, the female Republicans still voted in favor of the coverage. Kudos to you ladies for protecting your sisters, mothers, and daughters.
As a person of faith, I am disturbed at the idea that their male counterparts think that violence against queer-identified women and immigrant women is okay. I imagine they would say that they don’t support such violence; that they simply don’t believe that the US government should be providing services to these particular types of victims. But, really, if they are not willing to put the money and legislation in place, then they are condoning acts of violence against LGBT and immigrant women.
Where violence against human beings is concerned: silence=condoning=complicit in=committing.
The idea that they could vote against protections for any woman- no matter what her sexual, racial, ethnic identity- seems to me a crime; seems to me a demonstration of just how deep hatred and fear can go. At the heart of it, some people may actually believe that LGBT and immigrant women deserve to be abused- because they are judged to be morally “bad” or “wrong.” They are “sinning against God” or “taking our jobs.” First, there is no biblical support for that ideology in the words or life of Jesus. Second, in a civil society, moral judgments should not inhibit the protection of human rights. All humans have a right to not be beaten.
It seems elementary.
Whether you just don’t know any better or whether it actually makes you happy, please stop throwing your toys at us. It makes us sad. And angry. It makes us angry.